Wondering how long to date before tying the knot? Everyone seems to have an opinion—your parents might say take it slow, your friends might push for a quick proposal, and your partner might want to keep things as they are. It’s enough to make your head spin! But don’t worry, we’ve crunched the numbers to bring you the facts. While every relationship is unique, these statistics offer a glimpse into how long couples typically date before marriage and what it might mean for you.
- Most Couples Date for 2+ Years Before Getting Engaged
According to a 2023 study by a prominent wedding platform, about 70% of couples date for two years or more before getting engaged. For many, this timeframe allows partners to learn each other’s habits, resolve conflicts, and align on major life goals like family, career, and finances.
For some, two years feels just right, while others might need more time. Your age, life stage, and personal goals—like reaching a career milestone or saving up—can influence what feels “long enough.” Use this two-year mark as a guide, not a rule, and check in with your partner to see if you’re both ready for the next step.
- One in Three Couples Waits 5+ Years Before Proposing
If two years feels too short, you’re not alone. A survey by a wedding-related blog found that 29% of couples dated for over five years before getting engaged, while 22% waited three to five years. That means over half of the couples surveyed dated for more than three years before popping the question.
The survey didn’t specify the ages of the respondents, but it’s likely that younger couples might take longer to commit, while older couples might move faster. Your timeline depends on what feels right for you and your partner.
- Dating 3+ Years Can Cut Divorce Risk in Half
A university study of 3,000 people found that couples who date for three years or more before getting engaged are 50% less likely to divorce. The logic is simple: more time together means more chances to navigate challenges and uncover potential dealbreakers before saying “I do.”
That said, even three years might not be enough if unresolved issues, external pressures, or lingering doubts persist. Ultimately, the strength of your commitment matters more than the time spent dating.
- After Age 32, Waiting Longer Increases Divorce Risk
Research from a national family survey shows that up to age 32, each additional year of age at marriage lowers the chance of divorce by 11%. But after 32, the odds of divorce rise by 5% per year. This could be because older individuals have clearer expectations and are less willing to stay in relationships that don’t meet their needs.
If avoiding divorce is a priority, focus on building a strong relationship rather than just waiting longer. Time alone doesn’t guarantee a lasting marriage.
- The “Ideal” Age for Marriage Is 28–32
The same survey suggests that marrying between ages 28 and 32 is linked to the lowest divorce rates. Compared to marrying at 20, tying the knot at 25 cuts divorce risk by 50%. After 32, divorce rates start creeping up again. This sweet spot likely reflects a balance of maturity, life experience, and flexibility.
- Engagements Typically Last 6 Months to 1 Year
A survey of over 1,000 people by a dating trends platform found that couples typically date for about one and a half years before discussing marriage. Most prefer an engagement period of six months to a year, making the total pre-marriage timeline around two years and five months.
By the engagement stage, couples should be aligned on key issues like kids, living arrangements, and finances. Younger couples often opt for longer engagements to save for the wedding or plan their dream day, as weddings and post-marriage expenses like honeymoons or housing can add up.
- Living Together First Is Popular
A 2019 study by a research institute found that 66% of married adults who lived with their partner before engagement saw it as a step toward marriage. Half of the respondents believed cohabitation improves the chances of a successful marriage, while only 13% thought it could harm the relationship.
Living together lets you test daily compatibility—like whether your partner’s dish-leaving habits drive you up the wall. However, cultural or religious beliefs may rule out cohabitation for some couples, and that’s perfectly valid.
- Some Communities Marry Younger
In certain cultural groups, marriage happens earlier. For example, a study of a religious community found that members marry at an average age of 23, four years younger than the national average. This may stem from traditions, religious commitments, or a desire to align marriage with specific life goals, like missionary work or avoiding premarital cohabitation.
- Dating Length Varies by Region
A 2023 survey by a jewelry brand found that couples across the U.S. date for about 30 months on average before getting engaged. However, regional differences exist. Couples in some Midwestern states take up to 47 months, while those in faster-moving states like Indiana or Washington average just 15–16 months.
What Couples Say About Their Timelines
Ultimately, the “right” time to marry depends on you and your partner. Here are some real-life perspectives:
- Anna (alias) shared on a social platform that she got engaged after a year of dating and married six months later. “I knew he was the one from the start,” she said. “His smile and personality just clicked with me.”
- Mark and Lisa (aliases), together for 10 years, haven’t married and don’t feel the need to. “We’re committed, and a wedding is just extra,” Lisa says.
- Sarah (alias), who married at 32 after three years of dating, said, “We could’ve taken longer, but we were ready to start a family, and it felt right.”
Your Timeline Is the Right One
Every relationship moves at its own pace, and these stats are just a starting point. Whether you’re a whirlwind romance or a slow-and-steady couple, what matters is that you and your partner are on the same page. Ignore the pressure and focus on building a relationship that feels fulfilling, whether that leads to marriage or not. When you’re aligned on goals and values, the time you spend together will feel just right.
